I found these pictures from.. hm maybe 2010-12? They were taken with film. Finding these made me smile so much. Leile is a very special friend. I don’t talk about this a lot at this point because why would I but when I was a teenager I had a very toxic long term relationship, during the course of that relationships a lot of things happened on both sides which I feel like ultimately I have learned and grown from so I wouldn’t take any of it back. However during this time he essentially pitted me and this other woman against each other. He knew exactly what to say to make both of us see each other as nasty gross humans. And we truly hated each other for years. literal years. I don’t remember when it changed, probably after I got the fuck out the only way I knew how. But one day her and I actually just sat down and talked to each other. Genuinely like, hey why do I hate you? Why do we hate each other? We realized there was no actual reason for the hate and ACTUALLY we realized that we BOTH had been told lies very specifically so we WOULD hate each other. Literally nothing he told me about her was real or correct and vise versa. We ended up having a lot in common, and even though she lived two hours away anytime she came to town we would go get coffee or lunch and during that time I realized what an amazing woman she is (and heh she actually recently told me she had the same exact experience herself) we became friends and we’re not best friends, we don’t talk constantly but she’s definitely someone who I am so happy to have in my life and who I know I can message about anything and we will be able to talk about it.
So moral of the story don’t let jokes of men pit you against another woman because you’ll probably never know what kind of a friendship you’re missing out on.